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Showing posts with label season. Show all posts
Showing posts with label season. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Soul Seasons, Part 5: Soul Winter




Winter. No one wants to think about it this time of year (except a few snow bunnies I have as friends), but it's inevitably coming. Although winter has a few highlights for me (Christmas and my daughter's birthday), most of the time the word "winter" sends a chill down my spine. Interestingly enough, the cons that come to mind about winter can be spelled out in two word phrases such as limited travel, close quarters, less sunshine, blistering cold, tight muscles. Even the personification of Old Man Winter brings a mental picture of a white bearded, cruel curmudgeon who delights in hurling snowball grenades and icicle spears at a climate-oppressed people. The challenge that I face in the wintertime is getting through it with joy, and not losing hope. Does that describe your struggle between December and March? 


As in the other seasons of the soul, there is a winter. If you're not in wintertime, there is a high probability that it is coming your way. If you've ever been through an extended season of loss, trial, and hardship, you've been through a soul winter. Life around you seems less forgiving; the blows just keep coming like a regularly scheduled barrage of winter storms. Instead of having your arms wide open in stunning vulnerability, you find your arms embracing yourself tightly waiting for the other shoe to drop. Instead of abundance and freedom, you are scrimping and struggling spiritually. You remember with sad longing the days when you were coasting effortlessly, but now you find yourself inching up a steep incline. But if this is where these words find you, don't despair. Surprisingly, everything you've learned in all the other seasons will help you get through this rough patch. How?


Stay Warm
I spend my winter going from one warm place to another. I go from the house to the van. From the van to the store. Although I can't avoid being outside entirely, I know that the cold isn't my final destination; getting to a warm place is key. In order to stay warm in this brutal soul season you're in, you have to cover the area that loses the most heat: your head. So many battles are waged inside the mind, and keeping your mind "warm" in the midst of the icy blasts of life is like fortifying the command center of an organization. As the state of the mind goes, so goes the rest of the individual. It's a struggle to not become bitter when life gets sour, but it's not impossible. In the summer, we learned to give thanks- and that's one way to stay warm. Giving thanks isn't just for November- it's a 365 day of year proposition. In every soul season, there is always something to be thankful for. In spring, we learned to beautify our surroundings; that we can use wisdom to make any situation beautiful, and this includes our minds. 


And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Philippians 4:8 NLT


These words were penned by the bad-guy-turned-good-guy Apostle Paul not while he was on the beach sipping a cold drink, or in the company of friends at the lake, but alone in a prison. A PRISON. And not the kind of prison that inmates in America experience today, but a dank, dark dungeon. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, Paul was able to experience warmth in the midst of a soul winter. His arms and legs may have been in shackles, and his physical body behind stone and bars, but his mind and his spirit were free. To loosely borrow lyrics from "My Girl", when it was cold inside, he had the month of May. His mind was set on the exact opposites of what he was experiencing. His thoughts shot straight past the small truths about what he was feeling, and with the laser focus we learned about in autumn, he was able to hone into the bigger truths about God's character. Paul turned his spirit from a thermometer, subject to the changing climate around him, to a thermostat, that controlled the climate around him, and thereby he was able to keep warm. 


Keep Hope Alive
In the dead of winter, I find myself looking online for pictures of warm, lush places. I've been known to change the wallpaper of my phone to a beach, or a flower carpeted field somewhere. Am I torturing myself? Maybe. But deep down inside, I'm nursing the thought that someday, the barren wasteland around me will match the picture I have on my phone. Jeremiah in the Bible was in a horrible state when he looked around him. All he saw was pain, devastation, loss, and hopelessness. His people had turned their backs on God, and were now living out the dire consequences. His heart was dashed into pieces remembering Israel's glory days, and now seeing her desolation. The picture of the past didn't match the picture from the present. Let's crouch down to his slumped posture and feel his agony.


I cry out, "My splendor is gone! Everything I had hoped for from the Lord is lost!" The thought of my suffering and homelessness is bitter beyond words. I will never forget this awful time, as I grieve over my loss. Lamentations 3: 18-20


Pretty depressing, huh? But that's life sometimes. Not the pretty picture we are often painting on social media. Jack Frost has nothing on the searing bite life can have. And yet in the vicious soul winter squall, we see a break in the clouds over Jeremiah's head, and hope streams down in silken threads:


Yet I still dare to hope when I remember this: the faithful love of the Lord never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is His faithfulness; His mercies begin afresh each morning. I say to myself, "The Lord is my inheritance; therefore I will hope in Him!" Lamentations 3: 21-24


In Disney/Pixar's film Wall-E, the earth was trashed. Quite literally. The entire landscape of earth was piled so high and so deep with trash that life was choked out. But not all life. In the midst of the mountains of debris, Wall-E finds something completely paradoxical. Somehow, someway, a tiny green plant was able to thrive in the most unforgiving soil. He gingerly scooped up that tender life form with the earth surrounding it, and placed it in an old boot. SPOILER ALERT: the rest of the movie is built around him and his companion Eve protecting this plant from destruction. Hope must be protected that vigilantly. There is so much in life that threatens to pry open the sweaty fingers we're using to cling to hope and get us to let it go. World events. Difficulties. 

Hope is outnumbered by a million and one things, and yet only a sliver is needed to overcome them all. If we place our hope in God, we'll realize that even in a seemingly eternal soul winter, His mercies do begin afresh every morning.

 With the rising of the sun, comes enough hope to get us through our day. And when we pillow our heads that night and all seems lost, we wake up to new hope the next morning. Might life still be hard and cold? Probably. But there is always hope. Answer your soul winter's bludgeoning by daring to hope. Winter won't last forever. It's a season, remember? It has a beginning, a middle, and a rewarding end: springtime. Until then, stay warm, and keep hope alive. 


Did any of the soul seasons resonate with you? Gather up your courage, and let me know in the comments below! You never know who you'll be able to encourage with your story. Also, if you've missed any of the seasons posts, make sure to check out part 1 here! No matter what season of life you find yourself in, thrive, my brave friend, no matter what comes your way.

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Soul Seasons, Part 3: Summer





It's rainy and cold now, but come with me to the day when I first wrote this. It was 90 degrees outside, and there was a balmy breeze blowing. It was a day many have been waiting for and dreaming of since the wintertime. The rhododendrons in my neighborhood are in full bloom. Even the trees seemed to be swaying their branches in a happy way; warm weather looks delightful on them. When I think of summer, I think of chances to relax, drippy glasses of lemonade, and the gritty, cool sand of the beach. I admit that although summer isn't my favorite season, I am finding beauty in it. All I can think of are the scrumptious berries that I've been missing out on, and the watermelon that makes hydration easy for my kids, the unrushed mornings that bring joy to our day, and the extra time spent with family and friends around picnic tables and bonfires. 


Summer seems to bring with it a sense of overabundance. Overabundance of sunlight, fun, fruits, and family time. Summer of the soul is much like that. You find yourself in a place of abundance. It seems like everything is clicking with you. You have more than enough- but not necessarily monetarily. Counting your blessings comes easy, and you appreciate that, because life isn't always like this. You are in a sweet spot. Even if you aren't in summer of the soul right now, I bet you can remember a time when you were, while holding on to hope that you will be once again.
How can we adjust to soul summer in a way that would promote peace and joy in our hearts?


Give thanks.

It's easy to forget to be thankful when everything seems to be lining up. Sometimes in the excitement of blessings, we forget to bless the One who brought it along. It's the heart that has known seasons of loss or paring back that can thank God. Those branches heavy with green leaves once was barren. That lush bed of grass just a few months back was once dead and covered in a mountain of snow. Remember back to when you prayed for those things now in your arms? Give thanks. Thank God for His blessings, and His faithfulness. Thank Him for those things you overlook, like that sweet sale, the love of a friend, or your health. It was a DVD of singing vegetables that taught me that a thankful heart is a happy heart.

Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Gratitude says, "I know You didn't have to give it, but You did." "I prayed for this, and You answered the cry of my heart." "I don't always remember to thank You for ________, but today, I'm remembering." It keeps the channel of blessing open, because it is a constant reminder that God is good, and that He is the source of every good and perfect gift.



Give of Yourself.

I've caught myself when I'm tempted to hoard. I'm not proud of those moments. When I'm selfish, I block out everyone else but me. My needs. My wants. My oh my! But when I open my clenched fist, and give to others, I'm filled with a different kind of satisfying joy- the joy of passing along a blessing to someone. You've felt it too. I know people who live for the reactions of those receiving their Christmas gifts. Maybe you get a high off of that money moment too. It really is more blessed to give than receive. And although giving out of our own need is a sacrifice, it can be just as fun to give out of our abundance. Not just money, but time. Talent. Even a simple text in one of your free pockets of time to bless someone can be giving of your extra. 


The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed. Proverbs 11:25


Summers of the soul are for giving; for giving thanks, and for giving of yourself. Enjoy every drop of sunshine on your soul, always remembering where it came from.

Keep your eyes peeled later on this week for my first collaboration with one of my favorite friends and writers, Osheta Moore! She is delightful in every way, an artisan of words and wielder of wisdom. Her blog is Shalom In the City, and she along with her husband and their beautiful family have recently made their home in Los Angeles. I don't want to let the cat out of the bag, but we've shared an experience with our kids in the month of May that we want to examine from two different perspectives. I am so excited for this east coast meets west coast connection, and am thrilled to introduce you to her heart. You won't want to miss it! :)

Saturday, January 24, 2015

Dear Stuck Waiting...




Dear Stuck Waiting,


I know. I really do. You are everyone, and just you. You are hanging on to hope, about to give up, or burying your dreams. You feel like you are stuck in the middle of your story while others have reached the end of theirs. And you're not just waiting in line, waiting in traffic, waiting for your number to be called...you're waiting for something big. Something long dreamed of. Something just out of your reach.


Dearest Stuck Waiting, you could be waiting for one of many things...or many things combined. The dream job, school to finish, a husband, a baby, a house. You might be stuck waiting for that clean bill of health, that promotion, or that prodigal child to come home. Maybe what has you waiting is a deep trench of depression that you're longing to finally get out of.


You might be resentful when other people seemingly effortlessly reach their goals. You might be asking "WHY?" "Why do I have to wait, while they don't?" "Why isn't it my turn?" "WHY???" You might have your head hung low while you kick a pebble in frustration and resignation; you might think, "This won't ever happen anyway. Why hope?" Or you might be strapped into an emotional rollercoaster...pulse racing, chugging up the hill of "Maybe This Time!" only to hurtle down the steep incline of "Nope, not this time." That negative pregnancy test. That big repair that wipes out your savings. That rejection letter from that college...somehow they have a way of taking you low. So low that you want to get off the ride.


Isn't there something that feels so vulnerable about waiting? It's as if the hard exterior you carry through life is null and void when you think about your dreams. That titanium shell around your heart is replaced by a fragile egg shell, and it won't take much disappointment for it to crack. And when it breaks, it takes so much effort to clean up the mess. Yet, you still wait.


Stuck Waiting, you show courage. Because it takes a heart containing the least amount of courage to continue to dream. Disappointments bash your built up dreams against the rocks of adversity, and yet you choose to build again. You are a stouthearted soul. If all that is left of your desires are embers, please allow me to put a few logs on for you.


Waiting doesn't have to be a powerless place where you get weaker with each passing minute. It doesn't have to keep you at a stand-still. Waiting can be a place of strength.  It's like a gym where atrophied faith muscles can be conditioned, toned, and built. Although sweat is poured out, and you don't think you can hold on for much longer, little by little you are getting stronger. With each passing moment, waiting can add inches of pure, lean muscle to your flagging faith if you place your hope from your dream to your All Powerful God.


So let's not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don't give up, or quit. Galatians 6:9


But those who wait upon God get fresh strength. They spread their wings and soar like eagles, they run and don't get tired, they walk and don't lag behind. Isaiah 40:31


You don't have to be Stuck Waiting anymore; for there is nothing "stuck" about waiting on God. You are in constant motion. You are leaning into God's goodness; you are Strengthened in Waiting. May this waiting season find you not aimlessly flapping your wings, but stretching them and letting the warm currents of God's strength lift you up- conserving your energy, increasing your altitude, and letting you see the bird's eye perspective. This is a wait that will not go to waste.


Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord. Psalm 27:14